Stop lying to urself. – Develop URself
- RECOGNIZE BAD HABITS
Some of my bad habits feel deep, like they’re etched into my belief system. Six years ago after waking up in the hospital with a dislocated hip, I started having this immense yearning to change.
That day I realized, I was choosing to be unhappy because to some level it felt good, easier, and pain I could feel; Self love, confidence, being pity free, those were difficult. I made a very quiet vow to myself: “To always choose happiness” I still have yet to fully achieve good habits in a lot of areas of my life, but I think it’s much like working out. You keep doing it, trusting the process, and eventually one day you’ll wake up with your goal achieved.
A bad habit always has an origin story and we can choose to continue writing that story or not; With everyday being origin story for our habits. Today I’m pretty sure I made a few wrong choices and continued to write some of those stories. When I woke up today at 6am, cooked breakfast, showered, changed. I wondered what should I do now? Well might as well hop into bed for a few minutes and watch One piece. It was like that, just that easy, it did not even occur to me what I was doing something wrong, I felt so good about waking up early that I went right back to zero.
2. TAKE SMALL ACTION
For the last six years I kept getting in my own way, deterring my progress of growth was accepting that I was too broken to fix myself. That is just an excuse that led to countless other excuses; My biggest excuse was “I’m not like that, how can I ever be even if I did something about it today, I’m not gonna wake up tomorrow a changed person.” That’s true, taking action isn’t a complete fix to bad habits, but continuing to take action everyday is, even when you fail and forget, take action again and keep going.
After being back in bed for almost an hour, I began to feel discomfort, I couldn’t help but think about all the stuff I had to do today, and how I really didn’t want to, It finally dawned on me, “wait a minute what am I doing?” in that moment I recognized I was feeding into my bad habit, and that’s not in line with being my best self.
I told myself “Ibrahim you have two choices; You can stay in bed, continue watching the mindless idiot box, eventually you’ll start to feel down, tired, angry, hungry, lazy, judge yourself, fall asleep; Or you can just get up, that’s all you have to do right now, just get up and figure the rest out later.”
3. START FORMING A ROUTINE
Taking small action everyday starts forming a fragile pattern that must be constantly fed. Now instead of feeding into a bad habit, you’re feeding a good one. My routine is very fragile right now, but I’m immensely grateful to have it because I’ve been at a very low point without routine. It felt like being stuck in an endless ocean, no land, boat, or plane in sight, no current either. I was just there, with nothing to do, nothing to feel but just be there.
A whole day can go by before you realize that you did nothing but eat and sleep. Which is not a bad thing, sometimes I like those days when they are much needed for rest, but not every single day. I’ve wanted to have a routine for a very long time now, and I’m just now starting to scratch that surface. Routine means consistency, which then leads to progress. A routine can insure you meet whats on your to do list, and it can help keep you accountable for your tasks.