Often times we are our own worst enemy. We sabotage our progress, our mindset, our self love. Right now I’m have strong feelings of discouragement. I can feel my mind shifting gears into the depressive phase, I’m making a choice mentally to shift into another gear but it is so damn hard. A little bad can sometimes feel good, because it’s easier to feel bad; The hard thing is choosing and acting on feeling better, the level of discomfort I’m feeling now is extremely high. Writing this blog is the last thing I want to do, the first thing I want to do is craw up into a blanket on the couch or bed and watch Netflix or YouTube. Let my mind get taken into the idiot box. See, the nice thing about TV is that everything get’s resolved by the end of the episode and usually the good guys achieve their goal by just trying hard enough. Real life is far from being so simple. Resolution can take days, weeks, months, or even years;
Feeling discouraged? Try this three tips and if they work for you, leave a comment or comment with what works for you.
I AM MORE THAN MY THOUGHTS
If you’re thinking you’re not enough, trust me when I say this, YOU ARE ENOUGH! This positive affirmation is something new to me and so far I’m starting to see its benefit. I went almost four days without falling into a negative thought. When something hard is in the way, its very easy to think myself out of it. Trying to grow Develop URself has been hard and continues to do so. There’s the Facebook page, the Instagram account, now the You-tube, and to top it off I’m still unemployed cause of covid. I started trying to do podcast covers for other podcasters to make some income to support this platform. I have a hard time with being patient with myself, and an even more difficult time placing unrealistic expectations on myself. Letting go of inner dialogue, arguing against it, debating it and winning, that’s the essence of the affirmation “I am more than my thoughts” Just because I think it doesn’t mean I have to live it. Just because I’m thinking about discouragement, and feeling discouraged, doesn’t mean I have to keep listening to it.
EMBRACE THE SUGGESTION
It helps me to rephrase my thoughts as suggestions because it makes realize that my thoughts do no control my actions. Ever heard of “you are what you think?” Well I’m starting to assume that question is stupid. How many thoughts do you get that are just random, nonsense, bad or selfish? Thoughts you cannot control from coming into your mind. If we are what we think then we are all without control; I don’t believe that. Right now I’m feeling discouraged and attempting to break free from it, my thought or suggestion is telling me “that’s impossible, you feel so bad, how are you gonna feel good again?” Embrace the suggestion, because admitting that you notice the problem can lead to finding a solution. So I admit that I am having a hard time breaking free of discouragement because I’m feeling like it’s impossible. Wait a minute, I know its possible because I’ve done it before, and I will not allow myself to feel this way forever.
I have to take my wife to the gym today and train her, and thinking about that is causing more discomfort. Not that I don’t want to take her or spend time with her, but because my thoughts scream out even louder; “what if other people are there?” “what if you do a bad job?” “what if she doesn’t enjoy herself?” “What if your bad vibes rub off on her?” Doing this will cause me some voluntary discomfort, meaning I’m allowing the feeling to come to me instead of it manifesting in me. Going towards it will allow me to push through my overall discouragement because at the end of the workout we will both feel a sense of accomplishment