It is very important to have goals. I know that now, and I am very happy for it. If only it was that easy.
Before I had goals, direction, or sense of a path; I felt pretty miserable. Every morning felt like a waste, and every night felt like tomorrow’s breath wasn’t worth it. For that reason I did things that made absolutely zero sense. Somehow my mind found a way to rationalize them into iron clad logic.
#1 Don’t rationalize bad habits!
Somewhere in your conscious, you know the actions you’re taking are leading down a dark and terrible road; but you keep driving. All the while obeying road signs, like a good citizen. Living a beautiful self destructive lie. Ask yourself, what am going to do today? What did I do yesterday? What will I do tomorrow? What am I doing right now? If the answer is nothing, no clue, or who the fuck cares. Then you might have a problem. The problem I kept making and trying so hard right now to stop; is telling myself “I’ll get to it later, I still have time, I’m just a really patient guy and that’s a good, nay-great trait!” What this allowed me to do was continue to do nothing, and blame everyone and everything but myself, when an an opportunity or experience passed me by.
#2 Get off your ass!
It’s so sad seeing someone without a discernible direction in my life. It’s even more depressing being the one that doesn’t have a clue about anything. I was like that, you were like, everyone goes through it. Here’s the kicker, it’s only supposed to be temporary. Stop making terrible exercise for yourself. If you have something you want to do, go do it. Chase after your goals, put in some work; Otherwise you might wake 5 to 10 years from now realizing you ain’t done shit. I’m not saying I’m a perfect person without any of these issues. I struggle with self pity, excuses, low self esteem, bipolar, social anxiety, you name it. I lose some battles and win some battles. It used to be I lost all the battles. Right now I have several goals. Wake up early, follow weekly schedule, Pay off debt, don’t skip work days, workout, diet, blog, podcast, and get NASM certified as a personal trainer. In a nutshell, I have to get off my ass otherwise I don’t end up doing half of these things.
# 3 Forgive yourself, and move on!
Change is hard and messy and cruel, but it is absolutely necessary. Never allow yourself to fall backwards. It will happen sometimes, you will stumble, and you’ll trip hard but never fall. If you do fall, getting up might seem easy in theory but it can also be drastically life changing. When you fuck up and things go wrong, it’s important to forgive yourself and move on! The mistake I make constantly is holding on to past events, as if that will somehow motivate me or make shit happen. In reality, it actually hinders my progress, because I’ll dwell and dwell, then dwell some more, now I’m brooding and I’ll brood some more, then I’m depressed and he cycle continues. Also, if you find yourself in a cycle, forgive yourself and move on! We are imperfect and make mistakes coupled with bad choices. I’ll give you an example. Last month I started working out and eating healthy. Two weeks ago, I missed one day at the gym. So I started to feel so bad about myself, that I ended up not going for the entire week. One day, one choice, one feeling, equaled to 21. Once I forgave myself and moved on, my workouts have continued.