Do you constantly refuse to try something new? PT 2

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Lets be humble and speak some truth. Lets open up the dialogue. COME ON I wanna hear from you out there! Lets be each others Personal Development Coach!

For the last three years I made every excuse possible to get out of public dancing. There was maybe once or twice that I did it, and in my mind that seemed enough. Boy was I ever wrong. Read till the end to find out how I’m working on developing out of this bad habit.

Lone Star Ballroom
12/09/16
6:55pm

Here’s the thing, dancing is something that my wife is very attached to. It brings her joy, comfort, and a sense of fulfillment. Whenever we go out in public spaces on and dancing is involved, I find every way I can to justify not participating. Now, I am damn sure there are some of you out there that can relate. So, Let’s be humble and speak some truth.

I find and found every excuse in the book, so eventually she just stopped asking and ended up repressing that side of herself in order to make me feel better. When I found this out it made me incredibly sad to the point that I had to force a change.

Do you refuse to try something your spouse or significant other likes to do? If so, please comment, let’s start a conversation. Help me, help you, help me!

Lets be humble and speak some truth. Lets open up the dialogue, I wanna hear from you out there! Lets be each others Personal Development Coach! COME ON!

Weather it be a hobby, an interest, or something they’re really passionate about. Maybe it doesn’t mean that much to you, but means the world to them. You probably have your excuses; “I’m too tired, I’m too scared, I don’t know anything about that, I’m going to be laughed at, I’m embarrassed, etc. The excuses can be endless and for the most part, negative.

Are you 100% certain the ramification derived from your negative thoughts are good for you and your significant other? I thought so, I thought I knew best, and I consider myself a pretty smart guy all things considered. High school valedictorian, usually top of the class, pretty average in college. Yet here I was or rather am, causing grief to the person I love most without even realizing it. Are you doing the same? Do you feel like you might be? Come on! open up that keyboard and input your response, lets help each other grow!

Lone Star Ballroom
12/09/16
6:55pm

On December 9th 2019 at 7:00 PM. I started my very first dance lesson. I was very scared, nervous, shy, totally out of my element. I mentioned this to the instructor and they were very understanding and gave me some encouragement. My bipolar wanted so badly to drive me out of there faster than a bat out of hell. However, I did not let that stop me because the entire time I kept thinking of the tears flowing down my best friends cheeks; As she tried so badly to get past my stubbornness and pride-fullness in the heat of an argument, that should never have happened to begin with, but I was defensive. Amidst the lessons I kept telling myself…

“Think of how much this will mean to her. Focus on how amazing it will feel not only for her but for yourself as well. If she never has to repress a side of herself that she loves so much, then we’ve found some shore to bunker down. Focus on how great it will be to actually dance with her in public venues.”

Do you refuse to try something your spouse or significant other likes to do? If so, please comment, let’s start a conversation. Help me, help you, help me!

Lets be humble and speak some truth. Lets open up the dialogue, I wanna hear from you out there! Lets be each others Personal Development Coach! COME ON!

2 comments

  1. You’re already ahead by admitting it to yourself 😀 so Congrats! change takes time and I’m sure the people in your life will understand if you open up about the fears you have for cooking.

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